18 January 2014

Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow

I can't remember the last time I slept in until almost 11 AM, but that happened today and you aren't going to find me complaining.

I never mentioned the process here, but we almost bought a house in December. We actually made two offers on two different homes and ended up pulling out of both (one during initial negotiations, and one after a slightly disastrous home inspection). We went into the hunt very casually, thinking we'd just see what was out there and get a taste for the process with no real plan to purchase anything for at least a year. Needless to say, we (I) fell in love the idea of owning a farmhouse dating back to the early twentieth century, but after tumbling down the rabbit hole of the reality of home-ownership (and home-renovation), we stepped back and decided to wait a while. I know we'll find the right home for us eventually--the two we almost bought weren't it, and I'm glad we realized that before we plunged in over our heads.

All that said, the last couple of months of 2013 were not without their stresses. I'm glad we started this year in a more peaceful state of mind. We're still hatching plans for the next phase of life, but I'm also really trying to be more present in the present--something I've struggled with for pretty much my entire existence. The older I get, the more I realize the following:

1). It's okay for plans/goals/dreams to become scrambled, hazy or unclear. The world will not end.

2). The importance of appreciating the age and phase of life you are currently in. You're never going to be in that place--and those exact circumstances--again. Enjoy it, even when you've got your eye on the next thing.

3). Spend your time figuring out how to be a good human. Then, and only then, are you going to be able to create--and live--the life you want.

Now, back to my weekend, and curling up in my rattiest, oldest nightshirt with a cup of something steaming. Cheers to you!

[Photo: Rain in Harlem // January 2014 //iPhone 5]


  1. absolutely well said! enjoy your now!

  2. That is a constant challenge for me - being and living in my current age. I find the success I have with that comes and goes, but those moments where I truly am where I am are so glorious, I know it's worth the work I put in to be there mentally. I wish it were easier, but it's a choice I have to make. x

  3. Being present (while wisely preparing for the future) is something I struggle with–I want to be THERE already, and when there are these big goals, it's hard not to feel like not moving toward them purposefully is wasteful. Of course, sometimes a big goal needs time to mature and develop, and I'm just trying to sit on my hands gracefully until then. Hope it was a wonderful, relaxing weekend.


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